What role do the attorneys play in the collaborative process?

Attorneys have an ethical obligation to represent their clients zealously and completely. Although it may appear that your attorney is being sympathetic to your partner's point of view rather than arguing for "your" side, remember that your attorney is modeling respectful and open listening. Affirming what your partner has said does not mean that your attorney agrees with your partner's position or that they are abandoning you. Because all four of you are trying to achieve a peaceful dissolution, your partner or your partner's attorney might just have an idea worth considering.

Remember too that communications between you and your attorney are confidential unless you instruct your attorney otherwise. However, because all parties to the participation agreement commit to full and fair disclosure of relevant information, you and your attorney must carefully evaluate whether you can withhold information while still upholding collaborative-law principles. The important question here is "Is this information relevant to the process?" If it is, you have an ethical obligation to reveal it. And while your attorney cannot reveal a confidential communication due to the attorney-client privilege, they will have to withdraw if you tell them relevant information that you wish to conceal from the other side.