What Is A Collaborative Law Divorce Coach?

In Collaborative Law the focus is on creating a win-win solution for the parties. Such a strong focus on meeting the needs of each person requires a great deal of work and of working together. Each of you must answer the questions: "What do I want my life to look like going forward from here?" and "What do I need in order to live the life I desire?"

our attorney needs the answer to these questions to make sure you are able to get what you need, but you may have trouble expressing your feelings about it. That's where a coach, who is a trained mental health professional, can help. A coach doesn't do therapy, but does use their counseling skills and training to assist you as you work through the normal anger, fear, and sadness to begin seeing the life you desire. They will work with you on stress reduction and anger redirection as you determine what is needed for you to move toward your new life.

You may also struggle with the notion of "working together." You might say, " If we could work together we wouldn't be getting divorced!" That's why you need a coach.

A coach works with you to improve the communication skills you'll need for the four-way meetings with your spouse and the attorneys. They can be there in the sessions with you, supporting you as you and your spouse share with each other your desires and needs for the future and devise creative ways to meet both of your needs. (Your spouse will have a coach, too, who will do the same for him/her.)

Based on those needs, you might discuss bringing in a single financial specialist to advise you both on ways of using the assets that you have together to achieve the needs you each will have in the future.

If you have children, a coach works with you to deal with the special concerns and needs of co-parenting. The focus here is on something you two almost certainly agree upon: your desire to provide the best for your children. If needed, you may discuss the possibility of bringing in a single child specialist to advise you both as to what might work best for your children.

A coach is not always needed in the Collaborative Divorce situation. But when they are, it is good to know that there are trained professionals ready to help.