Is Collaborative Divorce Right For You?

To find out if you should pursue a collaborative divorce rather than the traditional adversarial route, ask yourself these questions:

  • Would you rather move on with your life than prove your spouse wrong in court?
  • Do you want to control your own future and not be dependent upon who has the most aggressive or devious attorney?
  • Do you want to control decisions about custody and financial support issues, rather than relying on a court to decide?
  • Do you want to go for a "win-win" solution, so that each member of your family has what they need to move forward with their lives feeling intact and secure?
  • Do you want to reduce the cost of your divorce by as much as 80%?
  • Do you want your divorce to be private, and not have your relationship aired in public?
  • Do you want to have a financial settlement that is considers the needs of both parties, both now and in the future?
  • Do you want to reduce the stress and arguments, when making decisions with your partner about your children?
  • Do you want your children to have a good relationship with their parents, both during and after the divorce?
  • Do you want to minimize the emotional aspect of divorce--the anger, blame, and fighting?
  • Do you want to preserve your children's emotional health during and after the divorce, and model appropriate behavior for them to follow?
  • Do you want to be treated with respect and dignity during your divorce process?
  • Do you want your children to feel comfortable having both their parents at all the special events in their life?

Choosing a collaborative divorce means that you value a holistic approach that focuses on the needs of the entire family, not just on your need to win or prove your spouse wrong. If you answered "Yes" to most of the questions listed above, then a collaborative process is right for you.